Did you learn a lot when you were in college? I know I did.
But the most important lesson I learned when I was in college wasn’t during a
classroom experience. It didn’t happen while I was doing research in the
library. It wasn’t even a boozy revelation during a game of beer pong. It was a
far more basic moment than any of those.
I was crossing a street with two blind curves. Most of the
drivers were my age, which meant they weren’t really thinking about pedestrian
safety. I don’t remember exactly why I felt I needed to cross at that spot, but
I’m sure it wasn’t necessary. So, I looked both ways, hoped I wasn’t doing
something stupid, and ran.
Obviously, I lived to write about it. Nothing happened.
Well, nothing bad happened. But at that moment, I realized that I was the only
person holding myself back from accomplishing the things I wanted to
accomplish.
I might have remembered something and needed to change
direction. I might have seen a pretty girl who I briefly chatted with and
privately mused about what might have been if I’d ever asked her out. It’s all
fuzzy now. What mattered is that, at that very moment, I realized what the biggest
obstacle to my success in life was: me.
That was the lesson: I’m the one getting in my way.
Speaking as a middle-aged guy with young children, I know
now that the lesson I learned is not the one I’d get today if I were standing
at that same spot. Today, I’d encourage my daughter to find a safer spot.
But playing it safe can be an obstacle too.
I still strive to overcome myself. Sometimes I succeed, like
when I decided to create Elephant’s Bookshelf Press. I was already deep into
the process of creating Spring Fevers, the first anthology
from EBP. I had created the Elephant’s Bookshelf blog years before ever
thinking about creating a publishing company. From there, it was an easy step
to naming Elephant’s Bookshelf Press. Soon after, I was applying for an LLC. It
seemed like a no-brainer.
But there are still lots of moments where I discover the
speed bumps that my intellect constructs, and I suspect the same is true for
you. How do you overcome your fears and
your own nay-saying? Are you filled with self-doubt? Most writers I know
still would admit to harboring that bugaboo.
Here’s what works for me:
Read and write
voraciously. I’m lucky to work as a journalist, so I’m paid to read and
write every day. But I also read as much as I can. And as widely as I can. This
helps me to:
Think elastically.
A creative mind is one that can stretch an old idea into something new or
connect seemingly disparate concepts into something that feels altogether
different. It may be the most important element of:
Innovation. Take
what has worked in the past and break it down into its vital elephants… er,
elements. Can any of those pieces be upgraded? If so, what happens?
Ask questions. Do
you know how your favorite author got started? …
“Write” every day:
Though I physically write at least five or six days a week, I keep a loose
definition of writing here. To me, writing includes imagining. Many of my best
ideas come when I’m not able to jot them down or expand on them. I often come
up with ideas while watching my daughters in their swimming lessons. Perhaps I
should, but I don’t take notebooks with me to the pool. But I love musing on
where some characters or settings might go, even if it’s just 15-20 minutes to
mentally play that day. Write every day and you’ll see your writing flourish.
Plan and schedule.
I used to write on the fly and see where a story took me. I read an article by
an author who broke down her routine on her blog and later built a book on how
she turned her writing routine into a 10,000 word a day habit. The key was
starting with a light outline of what she wanted to accomplish that day. It
helped her organize her thoughts and focus her mind. I’ve tried to apply that
not only to my personal writing but also the day of writing and editing in my
day job. In many ways, I still write by my pants, but I know when I’m going to
write now and have goals for words or tasks. Which leads to the next item …
Create – and stick to
– deadlines: I apply deadlines to all goals: daily goals, weekly goals,
monthly goals, quarterly goals, and annual goals. When I know I have a busy
Saturday ahead with family stuff, I usually list all the things I need to
accomplish and scratch them off when they’re done. Sometimes I even write down
things I’ve already done before starting the list – run 3 miles, feed the cats
– to mess with my own mind and convince myself I’m getting things done. Sometimes
it also helps my wife know where I am and what I’m hoping to do; she’s been
known to add to the list, too.
Establish some sort
of accountability system. This is the tough one for me. The truth is,
keeping accountable is very difficult for a lot of writers. It’s too easy to
say, “Oh, I just don’t feel it today. I’ll write twice as long tomorrow.” Or to
be distracted by any of the myriad legitimate interruptions that occur from day
to day. Sick kid? Sick parent? Got to take the car to the shop? Any of these
things can ruin a day or drag on to several. Having a good friend or a touchy
acquaintance whose job is to harass you when you’re trying to blow off your
writing time is a good idea in theory, but I’ve learned that it doesn’t work
every time.
Reward yourself for
your accomplishments. In contrast to the accountability issue, this can be
too easy sometimes. It’s important to recognize your accomplishments, but
celebrate worthy goals and with supportive techniques. You obviously don’t want
to say, “if I finish 100 words today, I’ll celebrate by not writing at all
tomorrow.” It’s not only too few words and likely to have accomplished little,
but you’d be taking a step back by not writing the next day. But if your goal
was 50,000 words for a month and you reached your goal, take your significant
other out to dinner, or for some ice cream, or something else pleasant and
festive. You deserve it.
Of course, you may have different issues that get in your
way of your writing. I can only imagine. But maybe you have found ways to
overcome them too. I’d love to hear from you. Please share!